The grieving of a spouse is not a easy one, there are never the right words to help someone through this terrible loss. I thought maybe creating a Meal Train to make sure Tarynn and the kids are well fed. If you don't want to cook you can even give Gift Certificates to local restaurants (Casey's would be a good one). Paper products so she doesn't have to do many dishes would be a good thing too. this way Tarynn can focus on getting though this ordeal, any questions you can ask!