There is a quote I believe is most helpful as we figure out how to help Tricia and her children, "Don’t ask a grieving person what they need; it’s another thing for them to have to think about. Instead, offer specific help or support." 

TJ was a loving father and husband sharing his life with Tricia Harwell, who many of us consider a treasured friend. Together, TJ and Tricia had a beautiful family. In this time of profound loss, Tricia and her children need our support more than ever. 
As we come together as a community, we have set up this "give in kind" page to offer our help and solidarity. If you wish to use "give in kind" to lend your support any gifts will go directly to Tricia and her children and their beautiful dogs and cats. Whether through contributions of essentials, services, or other forms of support, your generosity will make a meaningful difference in their lives as they navigate this difficult period.

Let’s honor TJ’s memory by extending our care and compassion to Tricia and her family. Your kindness and support will not go unnoticed and will be deeply appreciated. 

Thank you for your generosity and for coming together in this time of need.

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What is the best gift anytime? A Target eGift Card. With no fees and no expiration dates, the real question is: who couldn't use a gift card from Target?
Why We Love This Gift: Whether as a baby gift or to replenish supplies around the house, to cheer up a sick kid, or help someone with prescription costs, you can almost always find exactly what you need at Target. We love this gift because it enables your recipient with endless options and the ability to purchase precisely what they need - no questions asked.
What To Say In Your Card: I thought this might come in handy. I am sending you so much love!

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Good at over 25,000 locations nationwide, recipients can use their Spafinder gift card for a massage or facial, yoga or pilates classes, acupuncture or chiropractic, or over 25 total services. Encourage your loved one to take a break for themselves with a wellness gift card they can use anytime. Available in any denomination between $25 - $500.
Why We Love This Gift: This is one of those gifts perfect in just about any situation. New moms and those facing stressful pregnancies love a massage. When facing illness, those affected do too. To be frank, self-care is often the first casualty of any crisis. When people are incurring unexpected costs at an alarming rate, the first thing to go are the "luxuries." However, those who face highly stressful situations with long/uncertain outcome are precisely those who should practice aggressive self-care. They won't do it for themselves. You do it for them. Pamper them. Let them know you want them to take a break and that their well-being is a priority.
What to Express in Your Card: I hope you don't mind my sending you this gift certificate. There is no one I know more in need of a massage/facial/yoga class. I know you won't do it for yourself - so I wanted to do it for you. I am sending you love.

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The digital Visa gift card is another convenient option for supporting someone when they need it most. It allows the recipient to select their own essentials or gifts from a wide range of merchants. The card will be emailed to your recipient’s inbox and is for online or by phone use only. It’s a thoughtful way to show your support and let them know you’re there for them.
Why we love this gift: 
With ever-changing needs, this gift allows your loved one to purchase whatever they need, whenever they need it. The digital Visa gift card is a fast, easy way to put funds in your recipient’s hands. This gift card is all about giving them that flexibility and peace of mind.

Looking for a memorable gift that adapts to any situation?
The physical Visa gift card combines the practicality of a Visa credit card—usable both in-store and online—and the thoughtfulness of a greeting card. For just $5.95 and the cost of your chosen shipping method, we will print your custom Give InKind Visa gift card and personalized greeting card, and send directly to your loved one. The versatility and personal touch of this gift makes it no surprise this is our most gifted card.
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<li>Versatility: Needs can change quickly in challenging times. This all-purpose gift card allows your loved one to purchase precisely what they need, when they need it. Be it a comforting meal, a therapy session, spa treatment, fuel, diapers, or countless other possibilities. No questions asked.</li>
<li>Personalization: Add a heartfelt message to both the gift card itself and the greeting card. Pick your favorite among the many available greeting card designs to give your gift a personal touch. And for those urgent moments, you can always choose to have your gift shipped overnight.</li>
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The Give InKind Custom Visa card is the perfect way to show your support during challenging times, or anytime you want to show you care. Whether you're sending love after the birth of a new baby, or sending good vibes during a difficult period, the Give InKind Custom Visa card is the perfect way to show your support.
This card is available with an optional greeting card, so you can add a personal touch to your gesture. And for those urgent moments, you can always choose to have your card shipped overnight.
The Give InKind Custom Visa card is more than just a card. It's a way to make a difference in the lives of those you love, and give them the support they need. Show your support today with the Give InKind Custom Visa card.
Additional charges will apply at checkout depending on delivery preferences. There are no additional charges for any digital cards sent via email.

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This e-gift card allows access to all Walmart products. Useful for anyone anywhere.
Why We Love This Gift: We love this gift because it offers access to things like pharmacies when a family you love is in need. Many aspects of surgical care are not covered by insurance - these expenses can add up. This is especially true when a family is on a fixed income. Items like canes, walkers, surgical gauze, and more - can all be underwritten in this way. (Bonus: It respects, as well, the privacy and dignity of the person you love). Supplements that are doctor recommended (always check) can also be covered in this manner. Walmart also just has everything so for someone who has lost their job it enables them to get what they need without spelling it all out. People are proud.
What To Express in Your Card: You'd do exactly the same. xo

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Bearaby's Cotton Napper is a buttery soft, breathable, knitted weighted blanket made from long-staple certified organic cotton - helping you sleep more deeply and wake feeling rested and revitalized.
Ideal for all seasons, weighted blankets have been medically proven to aid naturally deeper sleep cycles. The weight on your body stimulates the production of serotonin (the happy hormone), reduces cortisol (the stress hormone), and increases melatonin, which helps you fall (and stay) asleep.
Plus, Bearaby weighted blankets use nothing but layer upon layer of natural, breathable, great-feeling fabric and an open-loop knit design to bring you the best knitted weighted blanket for blissfully deep sleep -- so you'll wake up feeling cool, calm, and collected.
Why We Love This Gift: During times of grief or anxiety, a weighted blanket can provide a biological cue to relax. The feeling of a weighted blanket "hug" signals to the brain that it's time to quiet our thoughts and slide into sleep. We love this gift because it can provide soothing comfort to those who feel alone or distressed - especially during times when you are unable to be by the side of a grieving loved one.
What To Express In Your Card: I want to give you a hug so badly. In the meantime, I hope this blanket offers some comfort. I love you.

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Bearaby&#8217;s Cotton Napper is a buttery soft, breathable, knitted weighted blanket made from long-staple certified organic cotton &#8211; helping you sleep more deeply and wake feeling rested and revitalized.

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CareCard by Give InKind is the personalized, versatile gift card that turns money into true support.
When a loved one is experiencing a life event--expected or not--our first instinct is to ask "How can I help?". Sometimes it can be the most impossible question to answer. 
When you send someone a CareCard, the recipient can turn it into a gift card of their choice* that will help support them in their unique situation. From food, to shopping, to home care gift cards, and more, the CareCard by Give InKind personalizes support on a whole new level.  
Which gift cards can your CareCard by Give InKind become?
The CareCard holder can choose from 200+ gift cards:
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Who can receive a CareCard?
Anyone who is the Recipient of an InKind Page can receive a CareCard! Send a virtual CareCard directly to their inbox and let someone know you're thinking about them today.
*CareCard recipients select from a list of over 200 gift cards.

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A Reward Link is simply the easiest way to give the gift of choice. You&#8217;ll find dozens of premium gift cards, and with digital delivery you will receive the reward value instantly. You are a few simple clicks away from choosing the gift card you really want.

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Give the gift of doing with a Home Depot Gift Card. They are ideal for any occasion.
For those who have lost homes because of natural disasters or an elderly person you love in need of a home renovation (a ramp), a Home Depot Gift Card says a great deal. You can use it to budget project expenses and easily track your purchases online.
Why We Love This Gift: Houses are always in need of a little repair. This is an excellent gift for returning servicemen and women as home repairs can be necessary and/or therapeutic to varying degrees. For people trying to extend the independent living of their aging loved one, little things around the house make a difference. Things like rails near the toilet, a ramp, and similar house renovations can make a big difference. People recovering from stroke often need bathrooms and stairs to be retrofitted to help them in their long-term recovery or rehabilitation. For a family with a newly-mobile toddler, installing a gate or bolting a bookshelf to the wall are both helpful beyond measure. The possibilities are endless.
What To Express in Your Card: How can I be most helpful?

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Amazon gift cards never expire and they carry no fees. Redeemable towards millions of items at Amazon.com and also certain affiliated websites. Deliverable electronically and instantly.
Why We Love This Gift: We love this gift because it's appropriate for any situation. Let your recipient choose just what they need, when they need it... with ease, convenience, and endless options.
What To Express In Your Card: I'm sending you my love.

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Since 1971, Starbucks Coffee Company has been committed to ethically sourcing and roasting the highest quality arabica coffee in the world. Today, with stores around the globe, the company is the premier roaster and retailer of specialty coffee in the world.
Why We Love This Gift: Because it is coffee. We love this gift for that reason, but also because coffee (and tea) can facilitate conversation. People stop and talk over coffee and tea. Barista-made cups of coffee or steaming cups of hot tea are among life's "little" indulgences - the kind of thing that lifts people up. They are also among the first things people slash from tight budgets. Help them put it back. This gift is suitable for anyone to whom you want to express concern, consideration, or love. Also, here is a hot tip: teenagers love Starbucks. It is a great gift for a teenager.
What to Express in Your Card: I was just thinking about you as you grapple with recent events. I hope you will take a break and enjoy a cup of coffee - I know you are a latte fan. Maybe we can even meet for a cup? I'd love to know how you are doing and what I can do to be helpful. I send you lots of love.

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Since 1971, Starbucks Coffee Company has been committed to ethically sourcing and roasting the highest quality arabica coffee in the world. Today, with stores around the globe, the company is the premier roaster and retailer of specialty coffee in the world.

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Buffalo Wild Wings&reg; is a sports bar with beer and wings and a crazy amount of TVs showing all the games - along with rowdy fans and all the sauces for all the wings!
So bring your friends, your outside voice, and cheer on your favorite team to victory at any of their 1,200+ locations nationwide.
Why We Love This Gift: Buffalo Wild Wings is an excellent gift for any recipient in desperate need of a break - to take their mind off of things, enjoy some delicious wings, and share a meal with friends and family.
What To Express In Your Card: I know how stressful things have been lately. You deserve to have a fun night out. I love you!

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Buffalo Wild Wings® is a sports bar with beer and wings and a crazy amount of TVs showing all the games &#8211; and rowdy fans and all the sauces for all the wings!

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Sip into Dunkin' Donuts and enjoy America's favorite coffee and baked goods chain.
Why We Love This Gift: Whether your recipient is a pregnant mother experience cravings or a stressed-out family with children - donuts send a message to sit down, relax, and enjoy a sweet moment. We love this gift because everyone loves donuts, pretty much any time.
What To Express In Your Card: Please, treat yourself to coffee and donuts. You deserve it.

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Sip into Dunkin&#8217; Donuts and enjoy America&#8217;s favorite coffee and baked goods chain.

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Uber Eats is the easy way to get the food you love delivered.
Why We Love This Gift: We love this gift because it allows the recipient to choose exactly what they want, when they want it. Sometimes we need to have a backup plan tucked away in our pocket, and Uber Eats is it. Bonus: Uber Eats gift cards are also redeemable for Uber rides.
What To Say In Your Card: Please eat something. I am thinking about you.

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Petco is a leading pet specialty retailer carrying more than 10,000 different pet-related products. With more than 1,100 stores in all 50 states, Petco provides the products, services (grooming, boarding), and advice that make it easier for customers to be great pet parents.
Why We Love This Gift: Pets can be so expensive. But so too are they adored. Help a loved one in a pinch by providing necessary food or other pet-related items. This includes grooming and boarding services in many areas - a major help to those in need.
What To Express In Your Card: I know how you have relied on [name of pet] over the course of the last few years. What an ally. I hope this helps to pay for some of the stuff I know you like that sweetie to have. Thinking of you.

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The family-friendly restaurant is famous for hand-cut steaks, made-from-scratch sides, fresh-baked bread, and a lively atmosphere.
Based in Louisville, Kentucky, Texas Roadhouse opened its doors in 1993 and has more than 611 locations in 49 states and ten countries.
Newsweek recognized Texas Roadhouse as one of America's Best Customer Service restaurants in the Casual Dining category in 2019.
Why We Love This Gift: We love this gift because there is something very satisfying - and delicious, too - about a big and juicy steak. What's not to love?
What To Express In Your Card: Enjoy a night out - you deserve it. Let's chat soon?

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The family-friendly restaurant is famous for hand-cut steaks, made-from-scratch sides, fresh-baked bread, and a lively atmosphere.

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The Darden&reg; Restaurants Gift Card provides 9 distinguished and diverse restaurants on one card.  From Olive Garden's never-ending servings of our freshly baked breadsticks and iconic garden fresh salad to fresh, boldly seasoned and expertly grilled steaks - like the signature bone-in Outlaw Ribeye&reg; at LongHorn Steakhouse, we have one card with all your favorites.    Darden&reg; Restaurants Gift Card can be redeemed at any Olive Garden&reg;, LongHorn Steakhouse&reg;, Yard House&reg;, Ruth's Chris&reg; Steak House, Cheddar's Scratch Kitchen&reg;, The Capital Grille, Seasons 52&reg;, Eddie V's and Bahama Breeze&reg; restaurants in the U.S.  Gift Cards can be redeemed for Online To Go, Catering and Dine-In meals.
What To Express In Your Card: I am thinking about you so much. Please, take a few minutes and get something to eat and drink on me.

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With over 1,500 restaurants in all 50 states, the Darden Gift Card is redeemable at some of the most recognizable brands in full-service dining including Olive Garden®, LongHorn Steakhouse®, Bahama Breeze®, Seasons 52®, Yard House®, and Cheddar&#8217;s® among others.

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From fresh hand-prepared salads to mouthwatering burgers, Chili's kicks up the flavor with food that is anything but ordinary.
Why We Love This Gift: Burgers. Ribs. Fajitas - what's not to love about fresh Tex Mex flavors?
What To Express In Your Card: Sending a gift I know you will love. Please, call me anytime.

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From fresh hand-prepared salads to mouthwatering burgers, Chili&#8217;s kicks up the flavor with food that is anything but ordinary.

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Marshalls Gift Cards - premium clothes at outlet prices.
Why We Love This Gift: Premium clothes at outlet prices, what's not to like? We love this gift because it enables the recipient to make their own selection from overflow design options. Everyone can use a quality designer piece.
What To Express in Your Card: I thought you might be able to use this. Have fun!

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Setting up a food train is one of the best ways to help support someone you love. Here are some tips on how to give groceries as a gift.

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Best-selling author David Shafer on why it is better to acknowledge grief - even if we say the wrong thing. Visit Give InKind for articles, information, and a new way to schedule meals and offer concrete assistance to the bereaved.

Grief: Better To Say The Wrong Thing Than Nothing At All

New York Times Best-selling author David Shafer on acknowledging grief. Visit Give InKind for information and concrete ways to help the bereaved.

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Consider what you want to convey in your gift of flowers. Here are some considerations in making a selection. Visit Give InKind for information, articles, and a new way to schedule food and support to those in times of need.

What Flowers Express: In Illness & In Grief

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