InKind’s support pages offer assistance to those wanting to know how to be helpful to a loved one in a time of need. Here, we consider how to set up an InKind page for someone who has experienced the loss of a loved one in their life.
Whether it’s sudden or something that has been approaching for some time – there is no preparation for the depth of loss we feel when someone we love dies. People intuitively want to grieve with you and show their love and support. If a family or individual you know is struggling and in need of temporary help, giving their friends and family some specific ways to provide necessary support is a gift to be shared. Begin by considering the basics. What is most necessary? (The needs will vary according to the unique situation of your recipient.) As always, begin with loving expressions of support. Then, try to get clarity about what kinds of things are likely to be most helpful. (See a sample InKind Support Page for When Someone Dies.)
The family situation of your recipient is a good place to start considering what kinds of support are most critical. If the patient has children, make sure that they are considered. Meals are often a critical component of any care calendar – everyone has to eat. Is transportation an issue? Are there critical housing needs or repairs? Use the Care Calendar to add as many actionable items that are needed to help provide care.
- Food: Meals and groceries are often the first items to be claimed on any calendar. Providing food to families is immensely helpful. Think about setting up a Gift Card Train that includes options for takeout so that family and friends have flexibility as to how and when they use them. Groceries to fill up a pantry can be an immense relief to a family.
- Childcare: (If applicable) If there are children at home, providing for their care is critical. Children are variably comfortable with adults they don’t know well, so consider whether you are well-placed to offer this service. (With many thanks for considering it.)
- Adult/Senior Care: If a recipient is a caregiver to an aging parent, make sure to consider the needs of the aging parent. Errands will be important, as will rides to medical appointments, places of worship, and so on.
- Pet Care: (If applicable) Are there pets to care for? It may be helpful to make arrangements for necessary dog walks, feedings, or pet-sitting. Is there a need to foster pets? Go ahead and list this need in updates if it may be a need that lasts longer than a few days.
- Home Services: Use this category for any home services that they may feel like too much. Housekeeping? Laundry? Repair?
- Transportation: Is transportation an issue? If a recipient’s family has no car, it may be hard to take measures to reach for opportunities (support groups, employment, school). If one car must be shared this creates logistical challenges. Can someone provide a ride? Or, can someone purchase an Uber card?
- Other: “Other" is the ultimate catch-all category. This is a great way to create opportunities for connection. This is a good time to consider the things they find comforting. Just sitting with someone in grief can be extremely supportive at this time.
People will have different financial circumstances and may need financial assistance in paying for a funeral or other costs associated with the loss of a loved one. If there is such a need, simply enable the fundraising button on your InKind page and connect your PayPal and/or GoFundMe account.
The Give InKind Wishlist is another opportunity for others to meaningfully support a person in need of a little extra help. Browse Give InKind’s curated list for suggested items that could help in their unique situation. In addition to take-out, you can include other more non-traditional gift cards as well. When you see an item that could be helpful, use the “+" icon to add to their Wishlist.
You may also add an existing Amazon Wishlist to your InKind page.
Use Give InKind’s do-not-disturb section to let others know about the recipient’s communication preferences. Keep in mind that these preferences can be easily adjusted as the situation changes.
- Phone Calls: Is the recipient wanting to take calls at this time? If so, what is the best way for others to reach out – a phone call or text? Many people appreciate expressions of support even if they can’t respond immediately.
- Visitors: Does the recipient want visitors? The usefulness of this will depend upon the situation of your recipient, so consider whether it is reasonable in context.
- Flowers: Is the recipient open to receiving flowers? It’s such a nice thought – feel free to ask.
Add unlimited updates to keep friends and family informed. This is a great place for a designated page manager to keep family and friends up to date or for the recipient to “blog" or “journal" their thoughts.
A village gathers around a family in a time of need. We all navigate this world by lending help when it is necessary. As well, we grow by accepting help from others in the spirit in which it is offered. Keep channels of communication open. Create your Give InKind Support Page here.
If you have any further questions, visit Give InKind’s Help Center.
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